A few e-mails, phone calls, and text messages are a kind of virtual “flirting.” There is no real relationship yet in the man’s mind.
Therefore, if you’ve been talking to a man online for a little while (weeks or months) and he suddenly stops writing or takes longer to write you back, don’t take it too personally. There is no rhyme or reason for why a man will do this, and trying to figure it out will not only drive you crazy, but you’ll inadvertently give off a “vibe” that won’t help you.
It was just such a picture that a reader of mine I’m calling Dede responded to when she saw it on in August. Using the images — and, often, real biographical information — they create fictitious profiles and prey on women. Although these cases do not involve CID — military personnel are not the scammers or the victims — Grey has taken it upon himself to spread the word. “I don’t want people to think a fellow service person is scamming them out of money.” The scammers typically work in teams and have different ways to extract their filthy lucre.
As I outlined in two previous columns, Dede communicated via e-mail and text message for five months with a person who went by the name Mark Handle before he asked her for ,000 to ship a box of diamonds from London. By doing a reverse image search, I found the real person in the photo: Raymond Chandler III, who recently stepped down as sergeant major of the Army. “I’ve talked to people who’ve given up to ,000 and never met the person,” said Chris Grey of the U. Some, like Dede’s, ask for money to ship something.
There are many variations of online dating scams originating in Russia and Eastern Europe but they have in common a high emotional and financial cost to unsuspecting scam victims.
Despite being happily married for 13 years, Ray Chandler is one of the world’s most eligible bachelors.
Single women can find him on the dating site Date Me Mate Me.com, where he confesses to being, “Very new to this dating thing and am looking to see where this takes me.” At Fish Meet Fish.com, under the username Real Chandler, he explains, “I would love my first date to be something special.” At Girls Datefor Free.com, Chandler describes himself as being 6-2 and weighing 158 pounds.
Typically, a man comes into contact with a scammer through an online dating agency.
The scammer will have photos showing a young and attractive woman though her profile may say she’s from America or England.